I am going to be the BEST!! - The Comparison Trap

Updated: Apr 29

Then they said, “Let’s develop a plan for dealing with her. Let’s destroy her by the weapon of comparison. She will fall down and never get back up. She will never know who God created her to be.”


One of the biggest struggles and deceptions of our generation is COMPARISON. Media platforms constantly bombard us with images of PERFECT people, living PERFECT lives.

It is a continuous STRUGGLE to stay in our own lane, and not to compare ourselves with others.

Society generally accepts and even encourages comparison, and being competitive is seen as an admirable characteristic.

Ecclesiastes 4:4

Then I observed that most people are motivated to success because they envy their neighbors. But this, too, is meaningless—like chasing the wind.

As believers we also compete to WIN! We train hard like athletes, to subdue our flesh (our appetites, will and emotions), so that we will be crowned with a crown that will last forever.

1 Cor 9:25-27

25 Every athlete in training submits to strict discipline, in order to be crowned with a wreath that will not last; but we do it for one that will last forever.

26 That is why I run straight for the finish line; that is why I am like a boxer who does not waste his punches.

27 I harden my body with blows and bring it under complete control, to keep myself from being disqualified after having called others to the contest.

Comparison Leads To Pride, Boasting Or Low Self-esteem

Comparison either makes us feel “less than” someone else which leads to low self-esteem, or “better than” someone else that leads to pride.

All our talents and abilities are gifts from God. All we have is due to God’s abundant grace and mercy. So how can we feel self-important, boast, compete or think we are more special than someone else?

1 Cor 4:67 TPT

… It is futile to move beyond what is written in the Scriptures and be inflated with self-importance by following and promoting one in competition with another.

For what makes a distinction between you and someone else?

And what do you have that grace has not given you?

And if you received it as a gift, why do you boast as though there is something special about you?

Sometimes We Work Harder Than All The Rest

It is true that sometimes we work harder than all rest. But our strength comes from God’s grace, not our own abilities.

1 Cor 15:10

By the grace of God, I am what I am. And His grace to me was not fruitless.

In fact, I worked harder than all the rest, yet not in my own strength but God’s, for His empowering grace is poured out upon me.

Comparing Yourself, Advertising Yourself And Measuring Yourself Against Others Is Simply Foolish

It has become common practise in society for people to boast about themselves and advertise themselves. Here is what the Word says:

2 Cor 10:12

We don’t dare class or compare ourselves with some of the people who advertise themselves. In measuring themselves against each other and comparing themselves with each other, they are simply stupid.

Comparison Leads To Ungratefulness

It is difficult to be grateful for what we have, if we keep thinking that God is blessing someone else more than us. Comparison leads to ungratefulness.

Gratitude changes our perspective. Thankfulness towards God for what we have, expels jealousy and comparison.

Cultivating a heart of gratitude takes practice and obedience. A grateful heart won’t just happen.

We can begin cultivating a grateful heart by starting our daily prayers with giving thanks to God.

Psalm 100:4-5

Enter His gates with thanksgiving, and His courts with praise! Give thanks to Him; bless His name! For the Lord is good; His steadfast love endures forever, and His faithfulness to all generations.

Psalm 118:29

Give thanks to the Lord for He is good, His love endures forever.

We Are All Unique

We Were Created To Do Good

God doesn’t need our help, but He wants our help. He has created us to be co-workers with Him. Our deeds should give glory and honor to Him, not ourselves.

Ephesians 2:10

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

We All Have A Unique Purpose

We all have a unique purpose in the Body of Messiah, and sometimes the most seemingly insignificant body parts have the most vital role and function.

1 Corinthians 12:20,22

20 Yes, there are many parts, but only one body.

22 In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary.

If we are honest, we will admit that it is sometimes extremely hard to humble ourselves, and not compare ourselves with others, especially when we are the seemingly insignificant body part in the Body of Messiah. But I want to encourage you to seek the approval of God and not of man.

Gal 1:10

Now does that sound as if I were trying to win human approval? No! I want God’s approval! Or that I’m trying to cater to people? If I were still doing that, I would not be a servant of the Messiah.

We All Have Unique Gifts

Our unique gifts are given to us to serve EACH OTHER not OURSELVES.

1 Peter 4:10-11

10 God has given each of you a gift from His great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.

God’s Love

God loves variety. He didn’t create you to be like someone else.

God does not compare us with each other.

God’s love for us is not dependent on us, what we do or what we achieve. His love is dependent on who He is. He is Love.

We were made for more than stressing and spending our time feeling like we’re failing!

As we grow as believers our love for ourselves, and others should also grow and evolve to reflect God’s love and character.

· We should not compare ourselves or our loved ones (children, spouses etc.) with others.

· We should love ourselves and others regardless of what we do, achieve or how we compare to others.

· Our love for ourselves and others should be consistent and dependable. It should not change from day to day.

Parting Thoughts

Pursue and ENJOY your uniqueness.

There is no one in the world like YOU.

You are one of a kind.

There is no one in the world like your child.

There is no one in the world like your spouse.

Every person’s book is different.

Every person has a unique purpose.

Every person has a unique calling.

Every person has unique talents.

Dig deep to find and enjoy the treasures in yourself and others.



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